Is your partner or spouse cheating on you?
One of the most frequently asked questions of a private investigator
is ‘can you find out if my girlfriend/wife/
boyfriend/husband/partner/spouse is cheating on me’. Many people in
long-term and settled relationships can find themselves in circumstances
where they feel, for whatever reason, that their partner may be
cheating on them.
Probably the worst part of this situation is simply not knowing, and
that’s where we help. Luckily, many of the cases we are asked to
investigate simply result in a report for the client which says that
their partner is entirely faithful. In some cases we’ve found that their
behaviour change is because they are planning a surprise for their
partner!
Unfortunately this is not always true.
So what should you do if you think your partner is cheating on you?
The first step is to call us on
CALL 0722 228 293
and tell us your concerns. We will listen to you and help you to decide
what to do next. Calls are free from a landline and also from a mobile
and we will give you a free assessment of what is needed and how much it
will cost.
Why do you think your partner is cheating on you?
Many people call us when they simply have a ‘feeling’ or ‘gut
instinct’ that their partner is being unfaithful. This can range from
marital infidelity to a girlfriend or boyfriend seeing another person
but whatever the circumstances it can be emotionally damaging. Often
there are a number of tell tale signs which at first are ignored, but as
time goes on they accumulate and raise suspicions.
We covered the most frequently visible signs when a partner is cheating in a previous article
http://strategyinvestigator.wix.com/services but if you haven’t read this then here are the key things to look for.
Your partner seems to lose interest in you and your relationship
Now this in itself isn’t a sure fire sign that they are cheating on
you, after all we know that as relationships develop people start to
take their partner for granted and can sometimes simply be focusing
their attention elsewhere. It’s all too easy to have your head turned by
a simple bit of flattery. It can however be a first sign that all is
not well, when they don’t want to spend time with you or even talk to
you and are preoccupied with something or someone else.
Behavioural changes
This often manifests itself in them becoming angry towards you for no
apparent reason and aiming cruel comments at you for no particular
reason. Sometimes this can lead to emotional and physical abuse and more
often than not this is simply a coping mechanism as they know that they
are in the wrong but are looking to deflect blame elsewhere. A reaction
from you to their behaviour could help them justify why they don’t want
to be with you any more.
Changes in routine
Often a give-away sign, this is one of the most obvious signs. Your
partner suddenly seems to have to stay late at work more often, or they
need to go out more than they used to. Excuses can range from needing to
get fresh air, going to the gym more frequently and taking up a hobby
that requires then to be out for considerable periods of time, to simply
needing to do extra shifts at work, stay later to finish off work and
work extra hours at unusual times.
Personal grooming
A husband suddenly taking more pride in his appearance, or a wife
showering and wearing perfume more frequently can be an indicator that
something is wrong. Typically this will manifest itself in a change in
grooming habits, a sudden change in their wardrobe, fashion and
appearance and possibly a drive to improve their personal fitness. Any
or all of these can be a sign that your partner is cheating on you.
Modern Communication
The onset of facebook, friends re-united, easy to setup email account
and mobile phones, now give endless opportunity. A sure sign of
cheating is passwords being changed , mobile phones being hidden or even
pin code protected and internet history being deleted
Personal interaction
The most frequent and obvious of these changes is that way people
react to members of the opposite sex however it can sometimes be the way
they behave towards members of the same sex. Typically partners will
become more flirtatious with other people and their attitude changes so
they would appear, to someone who has never met them before, as if they
are single.
Now clearly some or all of these behavioural changes may be nothing
more than your partner taking an interest in their own appearance and
looking to improve their lives with you, rather than without you,
however when two or more of these signs are present it can often be that
they are attracted to someone other than you. Catching your partner
cheating is often quite difficult, particularly if you have a family as
finding the time or resources to follow them without being seen is
almost impossible.
At Insight we have over 5 years’ experience in handling matrimonial
investigations and understand completely not only how distressing this
could be for you but also how we need to handle this sensitive
situation. We have both male and
female investigators who are experts in matrimonial investigations and can help you through this time.
Of course, not all the signs explained here are positive signs of a
cheating partner, they could indicate other traits brought about by
pressure from work, financial problems or a multitude of possible cases.
Insight Investigations will examine the matter for you discreetly and
provide you with whatever the truth is and the evidence you need to make
an informed decision.
So if you want to find out for sure whether your partner is cheating on you then simply call us today on Freecall
0722 228 293 and let us help you.